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The road to happier and stronger you begins here. Online and in-person counseling for gay men and couples.



Gay Men's Counseling Alliance, GMCA, is a psychotherapy practice specifically tailored to the needs of gay men and couples. The mission of GMCA is to help gay men and couples throughout Colorado, New Jersey, New York, and Washington State create and maintain healthy loving relationships.


Founded in 2017 by Jonathan Merker MA LMHC LPC, GMCA gives access to gay men who may not have the ability to engage with a licensed therapist because of geographic challenges. GMCA was online before the Covid-19 Pandemic and is thus more experienced at providing relational psychotherapy over video calls. GMCA's HIPAA compliant, safe, and secure online video conferencing service turns any room, anywhere into a private face-to-face counseling session.

In 2021 GMCA expanded to include in-person psychotherapy sessions in New York City.

You're gay.
Your relationship is gay.
Your counselor should be too.

Jonathan Merker MA LMHC

Jonathan Merker #LH60547238.



Online, secure, face-to-face counseling for gay men is just a click away.

GMCA's HIPAA compliant, online video conferencing service can be accessed anywhere, anytime on your desktop computer, laptop, tablet or phone turning any room into a one-on-one, face-to-face counseling session.


Private, secure and confidential, it’s everything you want your session to be without a visit to an office.



Gay Men’s Counseling Alliance is a psychotherapy practice by Jonathan Merker with the mission to help gay men create meaningful, satisfying, and healthy relationships. Jonathan is an expert at treating gay male childhood sexual abuse, and uses a relational narrative model to work through current and past trauma. Jonathan considers "ex-gay" religious practices or anti-gay "reparative therapy" as sexually abusive in nature. Whether your abuse was physical or spiritual/emotional, Gay Men's Counseling Alliance can help you recover and heal. GMCA believes that childhood sexual abuse is uniquely complicated for gay men, as gay men also experience an abusive cultural context for their developing sexuality. It is therefore incredibly important for gay men to heal from their sexual abuse or trauma with someone who can help interpret and hold the interpersonal and systemic interactions of abuse, which GMCA is uniquely equipped to do.


In addition to his specialty in childhood sexual abuse, Jonathan is a relational psychoanalytical psychotherapist. Jonathan's therapy style can help with a variety of mental health and social issues. Many individuals come to GMCA to figure out why they can't make a relationship last, or can't seem to find the right guy. Many couples come to strengthen their communication, intimacy, and resolve conflict in order to create a stronger future.

Your first session is completely free so you can get to know me and decide together if you are a good fit for therapy. 


Individual counseling at GMCA is narrative and relational, which means Jonathan spends time truly understanding your story. The more we understand about you, your history, and present patterns, the more we're able to change your relational patterns into ones that work.


Jonathan's primary focus as a therapist is on healing childhood sexual abuse, but there are a variety of reasons that gay men may need therapy. Jonathan also works with issues such as body image, sexuality, depression, family conflict, coming out, trauma, and bereavement.

Couples counseling at GMCA is very active. Jonathan will often offer immediate observations and suggestions for changing behaviors and beliefs. This allows your relationship to change in real-time during counseling and continue successfully after our session. Couples often choose to work with GMCA because they can't find a local gay therapist, whereas we are only a click away.

Couples analysis at GMCA is different than other couples counseling. The purpose of couples analysis is not to solve crises or help partners work through whether or not to stay together. Couples Counseling at GMCA is for gay male couples who wish to deepen their personal and collective understanding and healing through their relationship.


Couples will be asked to reflect and share the variety of stories and influences that affect their daily relatedness and the relationship that has been created. With observation, curiosity, and a non-judgmental space, couples are able to understand who they are individually, how that affects the co-created relationship, and provides agency to make changes or deepen intimacy and connection.




Jonathan Merker, MA LMHC LPC
Gay Men's Counseling Alliance

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